Discreet Dating Etiquette

Discretion and good manners go hand in hand. This guide outlines the etiquette that keeps a private dating community calm and respectful.

Messaging

Read the profile. Be specific in your first message. Keep it warm but not intense. Respect the other member's pace and privacy.

Be honest if you want to step back. A short, kind message is better than silence. Use the block and report tools if a member is disrespectful.

Whenever it suits you. There are no time pressures on a private platform.

Not at all — it is a privacy tool, not a comment on anyone else.

Yes. Unmatching is private and the other member is not notified.

Stay genuine and proportionate. Avoid anything that pressures the other member.